Rom-coms often portray couples as perfect soulmates, effortlessly compatible. But in real life, relationships need work. How do these movies connect to what Gottman’s research tells us about relationships?
Rom-coms Spark Our Imagination
Rom-coms sometimes showcase impossibly “perfect” lovers, and we get the idea that these made-up stories represent real feelings in relationships before we think about if they’re grounded in reality. By watching these movies, our imagination helps us figure out the meaning of love, even if the stories aren’t real.
The 1999 comedy “Notting Hill” humorously depicts the complex dynamics between an “average man” and a famous actress. Its witty scenes capture the complicated emotions involved in overcoming societal barriers and developing trust. It’s far-fetched, but the themes of open communication, building love maps, and friendship can translate to real life as well.
Movies Use Metaphors to Show Lasting Love
Simple advice like “choose each other every day” is important but can sound overused. Movies use stories to create lasting metaphors. “The Notebook” (2004) shows a love that lasts a lifetime, making us remember how deep love can be.
Movies Bring Meaning Back to Worn-Out Words
Sometimes, common phrases lose their meaning because we use them too much. Saying “you complete me” might not feel special anymore. Movies like “(500) Days of Summer” (2009) bring these phrases back to life by changing the focus from finding a perfect match to facing life’s challenges together.
We Can Find Wonder in Everyday Moments
Daily routines can sometimes feel boring, but rom-coms help us rediscover excitement in everyday moments. The 1995 movie “Before Sunrise” shows that even simple interactions can be extraordinary, reminding us that beauty is in everyday experiences.
The Path to True Love in Real Life is Attainable
No Hollywood movie perfectly outlines the path to true love. But imagining extraordinary things can help us see where our real lives might need improvement.
Plus, when you need a little more help, tools from Gottman’s research can provide practical steps to improve our relationships, bridging the gap between ideals and reality.
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